This morning, yet again, we were late for something because my daughter will not brush her hair. If you have seen the pics I have posted here, you can see how long it is. It is very fine and tangles easily. It’s not that she likes her hair looking like a rats nest. It is more due to the fact that it hurts. Even the lightest touch of a brush hurts her and every single time anyone brushes her hair she cries because of the pain. I know I exaggerate a lot but I am not exaggerating regarding this. She cries every single time without fail.
I have tried every kind of conditioner, manufactured and homemade, chemical and organic. The only thing that works at all is Paul Mitchell’s The Conditioner. Except both my daughter and I are allergic to something in it. And when my daughter’s allergies are triggered so is her asthma. I have consedered writing the manufacturers and begging them to make an unscented version.
In the meantime every time I have to brush her hair I break into a sweat. And I have to add about a half an hour into our schedule to deal with it. I have tried to encourage her to cut off a few inches but it is very difficult to convince her. My ex and his mother who control every aspect of her life let her keep it long and unmanageable. I wouldnt really shave her hair but I would make her do it herself because she knows “how”. She has simply never been given the responsibility. I think if she did it herself she could control the pain better, because I can’t tell how gentle to be. I try but it is always too much for her.
Her grandmother brushes her 2 or 3 times a day for her. And she is not gentle. When she puts her hair into a ponytail, she will use a comb to make the part. She digs into my daughter’s head so hard with the comb that she frequently leaves a bloody little furrow. They have had her the majority of the time since the divorce in early 2007, since my ex stole her from me. I have so little time and so little input. I cannot begin to express how frustrating the situation is. She is 9 and a half and she cannot brush her own hair. At this rate by the time she starts high school she won’t be able to wipe her own ass without help. I know my ex, who is in his 40’s, certainly can’t.